COMPARISON BETWEEN ANXIOUS WORLD AND HEALTHY WORLD
STATE OF MIND | ANXIOUS WORLD | CURED OR HEALTHY WORLD |
Mood swings | You constantly suffer from mood swings | You feel occasional little mood swings but mostly your mood is steady and stable. |
Illusion 1 | When you believe you are cured, you become elated with this mistaken notion | You realize that being cured is not something that is associated with feeling elated. You understand you are quietly on your way to recovery from anxiety disorder. |
Illusion 2 | You think that the healthy world is a place where you don't feel any anxiety or fear and your wishes are all granted. This is the most common misunderstanding anxious people have.. | You understand that curing anxiety disorder means you get the freedom on your mind.You can not recognize that your symptoms do not exist. It means you forget to check your mind. |
Depression | When you suffer from compulsive thoughts and fears, you often become depressed. | You may occasionally suffer from depression after being hit by anxiety flashbacks. But it lasts only a short time. |
The frequency of doubts, fears | You suffer from these symptoms as frequently as every 10 minutes. | You might experience one of these kinds of thoughts once a day to once in three days or less. |
The duration of anxiety world | Once you suffer from a flashback, you can not estimate how long it will continue. It might last for hours, days or weeks. | You can pass through an anxious difficult time quickly (within 10 minutes).The worst anxiety flashback experience may last a few days. But you always know that you can get through the panic in a matter of time. |
Recognition of healthy world v anxiety world | You do not understand the difference between these two worlds. | When you are hit by a flashback, you recognize that you are going into the world of anxiety and you can clearly say to yourself that you should not do anything about it. You know you will be free from the flashback very soon. |
Symptoms | There
are numerous number of symptoms associated with anxiety disorder. Physical Symptoms: Rapid heartbeat, chest pains, dizziness or faintness, nausea, shortness of breath and so on. Symptoms related with compulsive thoughts: Depression, social phobia, eye contact phobia, hand shaking, body odor, lost identity, unrealistic detached feeling and so on. |
You do not feel any of these symptoms. |
Fear | You experience fear constantly about anything. This tendency gets worse and worse. | You can suffer from normal fear temporarily but it disappears very quickly and you do not dwell on it. |
Strong wish for the recovery | You look for the recovery extraordinary. You make a rosy picture on the recovery. | You forget that you are anxiety patient. Naturally you forget you had the strong wish for recovery. |
Time speed | Time goes by very slowly. | Time goes by so quickly, you feel you do not have enough time to finish your duties. |
Tiredness | You feel very exhausted by the time leaving your office at five. You might stagger on your way home. | You feel nothing but physical tiredness that is comfortable for you in the evening. |
Prospect of your life | You have an unrealistic rosy picture of your life after curing anxiety disorder. | You pay attention only to the near future. For example, about your date with girlfriend, tomorrow's test at your school or oversea tour next month. |
Direction of Attention 1 | You focus your attention on your inner mind. | The attention is focused on incoming information received through your eyes and ears. |
Direction of Attention 2 | You get stuck on thinking only of the future and the past. | You are thinking about things going on right this minute. |
Perspective about your life | You are very pessimistic about your life | You are neither pessimistic nor optimistic. You are in neutral. |
The effort of finding the cure | You
do it all year round and read a lot of books or sites on the internet
related with anxiety. |
You do not make effort to find the cure at all.You do not read related books nor internet sites. |
Instructions to yourself | You instruct yourself quite a lot everyday | There is no word to yourself |
Decision making | It is hard to make decision on whatever it is | There is no difficulty with making decision. You decide it in a second and you don't realize you made decision. |
Preparations | You always make preparation in any circumstance. | You face anything without making preparation |
Anticipation of fear | When you anticipate stressful situations, you always feel fear | There is no anticipation of fear except on rare occasions which involve what you fear the most |
Your thought | Your are always confused and you don't know how to handle it. | Your thinking is very clear and simple. You will get the point of anything. |
Your movement 1 | Hyperactive or dull and hypoactive | Your movement is slow but steady. You don't move unnecessary. |
Your movement 2 | You try to move intentionally and self-consciously. | You are not conscious when you move. You move very naturally. |
Challenge | You challenge everything | When you find something too difficult to be done, you simply move on to another subject. |
Human relations | You
are very afraid of hurting somebody but unable to pay attention to
others and end up losing your friends. |
Human relations are part of daily life and you do not think about it much. You are well balanced and moderately sociable . |
Friends | You try hard to make friends. | The number of friends you have is not a concern.You can be happy without a large number of friends |
Boy friends girl friends | You feel useless when you have no boy or girl friend | You feel a bit lonely when you have no boy or girl friend but this is not overly important. You appreciate the things you have and are not obsessed with having a girl friend or boy friend. |
In a meeting | You feel you are separate and isolated from others | You don't feel you are separate or isolated in a meeting. Your attention is paid to something else. |
In your office | You are stuck with your fears, doubts and insecurities. Your attention is not properly focused upon your job. You worry about making mistakes in your work and that makes it difficult to focus on the job. | Your mind is free from restraints and you are naturally concentrated on your job. You rarely make mistakes and others rely upon you. You don't want to change your job unless there is a good reason for it. |
Concentration | In order to get rid of your fears, you try to concentrate on something | Concentration and distraction occur alternately. You do not think you need to focus on concentration. |
Consideration, care and attention | You are unable to manifest or use these resources | You consider, care and pay attention to everything naturally. |
Selfishness |
You try not to be selfish but your anxiety disorder makes you act in selfish ways. | You rather enjoy going your own way. You do not attend meetings you don't like, excusing yourself for some reason. But mostly you are sociable and join in meetings and activities |
Auto pilot on your mind | You steer your mind manually and you are tense and nervous. | Your mind is controlled automatically and all you have to do is to watch ahead. |
Writing | You tend to scribble | You write slowly and carefully |
Restlessness | You are in a hurry and restless | You are calm and move slowly. |
How to spend weekends | You think about how to spend the weekend but you end up not doing anything but thinking. | You start the weekend aimlessly in the morning. But once you leave your bed, you spend most of the day handling all sorts of daily chores. You feel you do not have enough time to finish all the things you would like to do but you feel good about what you have done. |
About your parents | You have hard feelings against your parents | You have no particular grudge nor gratitude for your parents. You think your parents are just human beings as you are. |
When
you feel fear |
You start to fight against your fear automatically. | You put yourself away from the fear unconsciously. |
Order
of your action |
You want to start something that arouses fear. | You start with something easy and leave the difficult tasks until later. |
Idleness |
You deny the idleness and excessively strive to be diligent. | You enjoy being idle. |
Compulsive thoughts | You mistakenly consider your compulsive thoughts to be a sign of your strong will or your progress. | You think of compulsive thoughts as brain viruses.When you experience compulsive thoughts, you do not seek a cure for them. When you let time go by, compulsive thoughts will disappear |
Self-consciousness | You are concerned about how others think about you. | You watch others rather than yourself. |
About
other therapies |
You do not have a basis for your own judgement about therapies. You try any therapy available | You understand that CBT won't work and neither will any other therapy.You understand that no therapy will work . |
Medication | You can not spend a day without medication | You do not think about medication at all. |
Satisfaction | You are not satisfied with your life. | You
are satisfied with your daily life and do not think about the future
too much. |
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